Claim Your Own Mental Fitness

9-s Reflect, Revise and Renew

9-s Reflect, Revise and Renew

Fake Fir (12/04) Always the scent of pine pitch In the chill night air, crushed out Of the carpet of needles lavishly strewn Over the corner tree lot. Always the hunt for the quintessential Tree-of-the year, just so tall, Just so irregular, just so fluffy. Often in the rain, always in the dark. Rebellion crept in slowly over the years, First, with fewer gifts mailed out, Then no more German Honey Bars, And last, the ultimate sacrilege. There it was on sale at McLendon’s: Frankly artificial and just the right size. Up a week earlier and not so prickly, With […]

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21 Set Up by Your Indulgent Parent

21 Set Up by Your Indulgent Parent

A see-saw of self-indulgence  and self-punishment happens when you’re set up by your Indulgent Parent (IP). Your Critical Parent (CP) keeps you on a short leash so you can’t get into trouble, scolding your Child each time you fail to measure up to one of the six toxic beliefs your CP holds. Your Indulgent Parent soothes your child into a false sense of security as it supports the next six toxic beliefs. This whole process is explained in my book, Part I, Chapter 4. Let’s take the example of procrastination, the ninth toxic belief, that it’s more comfortable to avoid […]

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20 Over-Personalizing by HSPs and All Humans

20 Over-Personalizing by HSPs and All Humans

Julia Frisbie, Dixie & Rea Elaine Aron, who has defined the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) trait, has recently sent word to her wide group of subscribers that she’s crowd-funding a video which will help both HSPs and those who know them understand more clearly how this trait affects HSP’s functioning. You can see a preview video “sizzle” online at “Sensitive, the untold story.” One characteristic Aron notes is that HSPs tend to “take things way too personally.” After working with hundreds of HSP clients (and myself) I can certainly vouch for what she says. What I’m calling over-personalizing plagues most […]

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18 Study the Whole Picture of Mental Fitness

18 Study the Whole Picture of Mental Fitness

Way back in my first blog, I described how I bought a sparkly plastic “wand” to help convey to my clients, who were impatient to achieve mental comfort, that it would take time and effort. With the same heartfelt sympathy I must remind my readers that, like physical fitness, mental fitness requires effort in many areas and a life-long commitment. I urged you all to buy my cheap book because you’d need it to benefit fully from my posts. Or you could ask your local library to stock it and see if it might be useful. You could look at […]

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17 The FORMULA for Social Comfort

17 The FORMULA for Social Comfort

It’s exciting to have so many people take an interest in my blogs! One comment particularly tugged at my heartstrings. The writer told how disappointed she felt as she read my blogs about my struggle as an HSP. She’d hoped I would be more functional than that, I gathered.  First, let me say that her feelings are echoed by many people who deal with others whose brains are different from theirs. In my book, Part II, chapter 1, I begin my discussion of emotional problems with a chapter on these different people.  Its 25 references give the reader much more […]

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3-s Hot Enthusiasm and Cold Clarity

3-s Hot Enthusiasm and Cold Clarity

“Ask, and it will be given you; search, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened for you.” Jesus, speaking in Matthew 7: 7-8 All this talk about courage, serenity, discipline and perseverance can give many of us a headache and a nagging sense of guilt. As noted in the Mental Fitness Formula blogs, practicing the FORMULA I describe helps develop your ability to express these necessary traits. Some people have the gift of symptoms that prod them to practice and build their Adults and Wise Parents. I fought panic attacks and insomnia, definite motivators. But once […]

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