Claim Your Own Mental Fitness

Letting Go for the New Year, Part 2

…with the eyes of your heart enlightened, you may know…what is the immeasurable greatness of his power for us who believe… Ephesians 1:18-19 Letting go for Christians involves the eyes of our hearts enlightened. I believe that mental fitness can allow us to find the enlightenment in this. The Adult observing eye, well-connected with the inner being (“heart”) inside, can search for ways to decide how to approach the belief in a powerful God. First we must process through to resolution our grief over being human. This basic work of mental fitness results in a state of acceptance that includes […]

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Too Clever to Care

You can be too special to thrive, if the eleventh toxic belief quietly liberates your Child. You can be too clever to care, if the twelfth belief incites your Child to action. Belief # 12, that if you’re more clever than most people, it’s okay to find shortcuts around the frustrating rules in our society, can lead you to act without conscience. The rules of our communities are carefully developed to protect the rights and safety of all members. When you realize you’ve chosen not to follow one of these rules, your Adult should rein in your Child’s self-focused behavior, […]

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14 Letting Go for the New Year, Part 1

Letting Go for the New Year, Part 1 I’m in favor of simplifying, even over-simplifying, in the service of getting a handle on things. The FORMULA is an example of this. Looking forward, I’ve focused my self-observation on how “letting go in the New Year” can happen in a big-picture way for me. In fact, as I think about this, I realize that I’ve been forced to let go over and over in my life. I seem to embrace the letting go strategy only as a last resort. This is both good and bad. I might gain character as I […]

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19 Over-Personalizing Ignites Fight-or-Flight

19 Over-Personalizing Ignites Fight-or-Flight

Do you often feel like the only place you can find peace is one like this? The key factor omitted is other humans and all their triggers for fight-or-flight. While it’s wonderful to retreat to such an inspiring spot, peace can be found even when you’re among other people. Your Adult can learn to recognize the main problem, which is another Child Brain Habit. Here’s an example. Janet (all story names are fictional) sought counseling, after she and her husband divorced, for help with her troubled three-year-old son Winston. He had come to her one morning and sadly commented, “I’m […]

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4-s There Is a River

4-s There Is a River

5. Thus says the Lord:  Cursed are those who trust in mere mortals and make mere flesh their strength, whose hearts turn away from the Lord. 6. They shall be like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see when relief comes. They shall live in the parched places of the wilderness, in an uninhabited salt land.  7. Blessed are those who trust in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord.  8. They shall be like a tree planted by water, sending out its roots by the stream, It shall not fear when heat comes, and its leaves shall […]

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14 The Golden Rule & Belief #3

14 The Golden Rule & Belief #3

Feliciana Netamba cares for her two children at their home in the Cacilhas village near Huambo, Agola, where the MENTOR Initiative is working to help control Malaria. Photo by Mike DuBose, United Methodist News Svc. See inm@greaternw.org for details. So whatever you wish that men would do to you, do so to them; for this is the law and the prophets. Matthew 7:12 The Golden Rule, also called the ethic of reciprocity (see Wikipedia), has been embraced widely among religions and cultures throughout history. I think this came about as follows. At some point in evolution our uniquely human pre-frontal […]

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7 Quick Handles on Fight-or-Flight

7 Quick Handles on Fight-or-Flight

This is a squirrel who knows how to handle fight-or-flight. Surely not all squirrels would be able to manage this elegant solution. How does she do it? First she sniffs that there are seeds for her lunch up in the tree. Then she goes up to get them, but evil plotters have designed a barrier so she won’t be able to have any. She could run away in disgust at any point, but she doesn’t resort to flight. She could get frustrated and angry and scold loudly about it, but she doesn’t. She just sits there calmly and considers what […]

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