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26 Know Your Indulgent Parent

26 Know Your Indulgent Parent

A penny saved is a penny earned. Until now most blogs here have focused on your Critical Parent and the Toxic Beliefs that it holds. You must also get to know your Indulgent Parent, or suffer long-term consequences. Blog 21 described the see-saw mood swings you can experience if your Adult doesn’t balance these two Parent influences. Blog 22 refers to the most pervasive Indulgent Parent Toxic Belief, #9, that it’s more comfortable to avoid problems and responsibilities than to face them. To know your Indulgent Parent, you must gain deeper insight into your Child and how it takes control […]

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19 Over-Personalizing Ignites Fight-or-Flight

19 Over-Personalizing Ignites Fight-or-Flight

Do you often feel like the only place you can find peace is one like this? The key factor omitted is other humans and all their triggers for fight-or-flight. While it’s wonderful to retreat to such an inspiring spot, peace can be found even when you’re among other people. Your Adult can learn to recognize the main problem, which is another Child Brain Habit. Here’s an example. Janet (all story names are fictional) sought counseling, after she and her husband divorced, for help with her troubled three-year-old son Winston. He had come to her one morning and sadly commented, “I’m […]

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14 The Golden Rule & Belief #3

14 The Golden Rule & Belief #3

Feliciana Netamba cares for her two children at their home in the Cacilhas village near Huambo, Agola, where the MENTOR Initiative is working to help control Malaria. Photo by Mike DuBose, United Methodist News Svc. See inm@greaternw.org for details. So whatever you wish that men would do to you, do so to them; for this is the law and the prophets. Matthew 7:12 The Golden Rule, also called the ethic of reciprocity (see Wikipedia), has been embraced widely among religions and cultures throughout history. I think this came about as follows. At some point in evolution our uniquely human pre-frontal […]

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