Claim Your Own Mental Fitness

Too Special to Thrive

“Entitled generation: owed certain rights and benefits without further justification” Dictionary .com The definition above refers to the group of people born between 1979 and 1994. For us pre-baby-boomers, the word “spoiled” comes to mind. And for critics of Mr.(Fred) Rogers’ soothing programs for young kids, the key word is “special.” These terms are all used to describe people who are just too special to thrive, leaving the rest of us to take care of them indefinitely. In mental fitness terms, their Indulgent Parent allows their Child too much freedom. As noted in the previous blog on the ninth toxic […]

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12 Competing for Love

12 Competing for Love

When (God’s) love chooses, it chooses with a perfect sensitivity to the unique beauty of the chosen one, and it chooses without making anyone else feel excluded. Henri J. M. Nouwen Competing for love is a concept that probably dates back to prehistoric times when humanoids rightly feared death if they were excluded from their tribes because others won out in the struggle to demonstrate for strength, cleverness or beauty. While our brain evolved, ever-present danger may have helped to wire in the second Toxic Belief, that we have worth only if we compete successfully against others. This belief still […]

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23 Compassion and Assertiveness for the Pop-Bead Puppy

23 Compassion and Assertiveness for the Pop-Bead Puppy

The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated. From the Dale Carnegie Course, 1976 Here’s a new take on compassion and assertiveness for the coming year! For a stronger Adult, a wiser Wise Parent and a more secure Child, consider the story of “Compassion, Assertiveness and the Pop-Bead Puppy.” As I sat feeling exhausted in my doctor’s sunny waiting room, an older man holding a string of gold-colored pop-beads came over to me. He said “I want to give you something.” I was touched by his kind, gentle manner and invited him to sit next to […]

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9-s Reflect, Revise and Renew

9-s Reflect, Revise and Renew

Fake Fir (12/04) Always the scent of pine pitch In the chill night air, crushed out Of the carpet of needles lavishly strewn Over the corner tree lot. Always the hunt for the quintessential Tree-of-the year, just so tall, Just so irregular, just so fluffy. Often in the rain, always in the dark. Rebellion crept in slowly over the years, First, with fewer gifts mailed out, Then no more German Honey Bars, And last, the ultimate sacrilege. There it was on sale at McLendon’s: Frankly artificial and just the right size. Up a week earlier and not so prickly, With […]

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7-s Mental Fitness Promotes Compassion

7-s Mental Fitness Promotes Compassion

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. Dalai Lama     XIV, The Art of Happiness   The Dalai Lama has had to leave his homeland, while it is under siege by China, to protect himself from assassination. He certainly knows and loves the people there, who look to him for spiritual guidance and are greatly at risk because they follow the beliefs he teaches. Yet I don’t recall seeing a picture of him without a radiant smile. Christians are also taught to have compassion as they offer love to each […]

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4-s There Is a River

4-s There Is a River

5. Thus says the Lord:  Cursed are those who trust in mere mortals and make mere flesh their strength, whose hearts turn away from the Lord. 6. They shall be like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see when relief comes. They shall live in the parched places of the wilderness, in an uninhabited salt land.  7. Blessed are those who trust in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord.  8. They shall be like a tree planted by water, sending out its roots by the stream, It shall not fear when heat comes, and its leaves shall […]

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